What is a sore loser? The Miriam Webster dictionary defines a sore loser as,” a person who becomes very upset or angry when he or she loses a game, contest, etc”.Is this a bad thing? When I was a child, I was a bigger sore loser than Kobe Bryant. I lost at everything. It didn’t matter if it were sports, childhood fights, video games or school. My failute was so prevalent, that I couldn’t wait to attend church every weekend. I figured I could take refuge in a place where no one would judge or embarrass me. I couldn’t have been more wrong. My mom raised my siblings and I as Seventh Day Adventists. If there’s two things you should know about Adventists, it’s that they know their Bible thoroughly, and they attend church on Saturdays.Apparently, I was only proficient at one of the two Adventist tenets. I attended Sabbath school every Saturday, and every Saturday I’d be upstaged by one of my church classmates. I’d lose every bible trivia contest, I would always forget my Sabbath school homework, and I’d never be on time. For most of my childhood, I felt like an ant under a magnifying glass.
Kobe Bryant was and still is, a classic sore loser. He spent eight years of his childhood in Italy, due to his dad’s pro basketball career. Kobe had no friends, his only companions were his family and his basketball. When Kobe Bryant returned to Philadelphia as a teen, he was again a social outcast. He was a awkward teen who spoke Italian, had no friends, and couldn’t read and write in English anymore. Of course, everyone knows how Kobe’s childhood story ended. He overcame his awkwardness by becoming a basketball savant at Lower Merion High School.
I did overcome my perpetual losing streak. I eventually beat my adversaries in video games, fights and sports. It took hours of introspection and obsessive practice. I spent a lot of time reading and soaking up wisdom from the older people in my life. I would accompany my older cousins to their jobs, hang-out with their friends, and girlfriends. I also gained new perspectives on life, because I moved a lot. My mom had a fetish for nationally ranked schools, and idyllic New England towns. I started excelling in school, because I finally approached it as a tool to escape my mundane town . I stopped going to church. Attending church every weekend was ruining my self-confidence. I’ll explain why in another post.
American society is going backwards because we don’t challenge our sore losers anymore. Instead, laws are put into place to coddle them. Cyber-bullying is an issue because kids rather cower in fear, instead of fighting their attackers. Instead of building a normal social life, adolescents rather emulate their favorite celebrities. In college, students now need “safe spaces” and other protective spaces. The workplace isn’t safe either. The sexually inept have taken over that aspect of life too. Flirting can get you fired; even if the recipient is receptive to your advances. If you’re too attractive and in shape, you can be fired. Introversion isn’t allowed in the workplace either. You can’t eat alone or work independently, or you’ll be harassed and targeted by the “Groupthink Mafia”.The biggest lesson that I learned from my childhood failures, is that self-confidence is the key to overcoming all obstacles. Maybe that explains why Donald Trump is so close to being president. He represents the old America, the America where you had to fight your way to the top.